音频·阅读 | 为人父母,审慎处之( 四 )

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Vice is found in excess, virtue in the mean.

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In a world where parenting outrages spread daily like wildfires across the internet and consume communities of commenters, this is very important to remember: Unless a parent is incorrigibly abusive or neglectful,

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0 he or she will never intentionally choose against the good of his or her child. Most of the time, the outrageous parent du jour

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is just choosing among competing goods—that is, exercising prudence—in a way different from the way you do. And when parents fail—and we do! —it is hardly ever a failure of care or concern or love, but a failure of prudence.

 

For parents of young children more than for people in any other stage of life, every day is a constant stream of little prudential decisions among competing goods. For instance: Do I let my toddler